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Content warning: Interpersonal abuse

I haven't even seen the movie but I'm already getting the urge to excise myself from the Marvel conversation, and it's for the same reason I eventually grew tired of the neverending Infinity War hot takes.

So, primarily just the fact that the one genuinely insightful and engaging aspect of Thanos as a character has been lost to the fucking avalanche of people wanting to disavow his actions but going about it in the most tiresome, self-involved way possible.

Like, here's the thing, everyone who's said a variation of "abuse isn't love!" w/r/t Thanos getting the Soul Stone -- y'all watched GotG Vol.2, right? Y'all saw the disconnect between Yondu's behaviour and his intent? We all saw Peter call him out on the abusive effects of his actions while accepting that his behaviour did not fully reflect his motivations? Did we all just, like... forget that motivations are value-neutral, suddenly, just because Thanos is unlikeable and wrong?

And by all means, disagree with Thanos' actions. His critical flaw is that he maximalises the consequences of his own actions in his head (fancy that, a genocider with an elevated sense of self-importance) and as such he has to keep doing the worst thing to ensure he's still getting the best result. Hate him, if he reminds you of your own abuser, hate him if you find his writing is hack and only makes him another in a long line of delusional villains who think the ends justify the means.

But this insistence on rejecting and entirely rewriting his motivations, born purely out of an insistence that "true love" can only result in pure, healing, safe action is fucking disingenious and I am disgusted by the amount of times I've seen people insisting that they know "better" what motivates someone just because they're able to see the consequences of their actions, instead of just sticking to calling the behaviour abusive. Because it was.

I'm off to find somewhere to have this conversation that isn't a gaslit room.

Date: 27/4/19 09:19 (UTC)
zenolalia: A lalafell wearing rabbit ears stares wistfully into the sunset, asking Yoshi-P when male viera will come back from the war. (Default)
From: [personal profile] zenolalia
IMO, what Thanos feels is irrelevant to the fact that he just gets to win by murdering his own abuse victim. And like, that's just sort of gone with.

Saying "abuse=love" is a convenient shorthand for that, because it's a common narrative convention that happens in film and other media which depicts abusive relationships, especially between parents and children. They do it for love, because they want you to be stronger or better or safer or tougher. And it's a common enough rationalization in real life, too, which is what makes it compelling in fiction. But the thing that is so rarely addressed in these fictions (the thing I loved seeing addressed in GOTG2), is that the motivation doesn't matter. The feeling is irrelevant. It's still super fucked up.

Except, of course, in IW, and throughout Endgame, Thanos is never really treated as fucked up. Misguided, miscalculating, but not actually wrong. He wins. Again and again. He wins the soul stone by killing his child. He wins the war at the end of infinity war. I don't want to give too many spoilers for Endgame, as you mention having not seen it, but suffice to say that he dies happy--he won.

Were there a line of dialogue that separated the abuse from the love, anywhere in Endgame or IW, as there are in GOTG2, then sure.

But in Endgame, as in IW, Thanos's abuse is just continually treated as a natural manifestation of love. Indeed, there are extensive themes of parenthood and parental love throughout the film, and Thanos's treatment of his children in Endgame, rather than being contrasted against these other figures, is simply placed among them in a way that serves to downplay the abusive behaviour of OTHER abusive parents too.

It's really kind of a step backwards for everyone involved.

Date: 27/4/19 09:57 (UTC)
zenolalia: A lalafell wearing rabbit ears stares wistfully into the sunset, asking Yoshi-P when male viera will come back from the war. (Default)
From: [personal profile] zenolalia
I suppose we've taken different things from the portrayal, then. Which is, of course, fine. I just thought perhaps I had been unclear in some of my past criticism of his characterization and writing. As that was not the case, I'll leave the subject be.

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