yvannairie | I don't know the OP from Adam so I'm not gonna start a fight or anything though

"being non-binary means anyone who's attracted to you is gay by definition" I mean. To be entirely real, anyone attracted to me is actually more like straight by definition and specifically "straight queer" by extension of that reality.

Like even just from an assimilation-neutral perspective, I need cis gay people and binary trans monosexual folks who flirt with me to really realise they can't project their preferred gender on me to retain their "gayness". That they can't binarise me for their own comfort. That they're going to have to embrace that sometimes difference is an inherent part of queerness, that treating all queerness as an extension of some kind of homophilic ideal is at best passively misgendering me.

And let's be real -- straight cis people who flirt with me don't fucking see me as the same as them, lmao. The straight cis people who do flirt with me have an easier time accepting my categorical difference and yet sharing in a sense of belonging with me than gay people who feel the need to re-gender me to validate their attraction to me.

(granted, the post I'm pulling this from is apparently a nonbinary anon saying this to another trans person, but even in that case I want to remind people that nonbinary is not a "middleground" gender.)