Timing-induced strikeouts
Tuesday, 5 March 2019 11:33![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
yvannairieIt's always a particular kind of ":(" realising someone had a bad experience with Topic That You Like, because you're then stuck never bringing that topic up out of respect, and feeling just a little bit deceptive for not outright saying "I like this thing, but cool" in case it's one of those things people consider One Strike You're Out tells.
I have an especially hard time not running into this because I'm apparently very easy to confide into, and a lot of people will open up about a lot of adverse experiences they've had to me. If I'd had fifty bucks every time someone told me "I've never spoken to anyone else about this", I'd have my rent covered for the foreseeable future.
(Then again, I don't know if I wouldn't prefer this to finding out about these things after going out of my way to gush about something that makes that person incredibly uncomfortable. Conversational no-go zones are unpleasant, no matter how you stumble into them.)
I have an especially hard time not running into this because I'm apparently very easy to confide into, and a lot of people will open up about a lot of adverse experiences they've had to me. If I'd had fifty bucks every time someone told me "I've never spoken to anyone else about this", I'd have my rent covered for the foreseeable future.
(Then again, I don't know if I wouldn't prefer this to finding out about these things after going out of my way to gush about something that makes that person incredibly uncomfortable. Conversational no-go zones are unpleasant, no matter how you stumble into them.)
