LEP 27.2.

[yvannairie]

Once again thinking about how I'm not opposed to ace and aro rep in fandom, but the way people go about it is frustratingly reductive. It's all about forbidding people from doing certain things that people could never see themselves doing and not really saying what they want to see other than... not... those things.

It's the flipside of the vinegar-honey conversation. I'm a lot more permissive of people saying "I want to see more of x, I feel like there's so much y but not x, here's why x should be considered more" even if I don't think there was any reason to bring up y than I am of "I wanna see less of x, people shouldn't be writing x, I don't want to see x". Like, genuinely, what is your alternative? What should all the people who wanna make x do instead? Or could you just, like. Ask people to tag x better so you can block it better?

If your solution to something is "people should just stop x", that's not a solution, that's a preference, and it needs to be handled through methods you have agency over. You have no agency over what I write. You can try to convince me to write something different, sure, but that's a negotiation. There is no negotiation to be had when discussing something I'm doing because I want to that doesn't bother anyone else.

Comments

[cimorene]

Yeah, agreed. Also no shade on people who ARE trying to please the crowd if that's what they want to do but I can't help finding the idea that I would be happy to just write whatever because a stranger told me to personally rather insulting, not to say ridiculous. I mean, who are they to tell people what to do?