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[yvannairie]

My friend just made me aware of a kind of word game people apparently play, where they bring up a thing but then it's wrong if you comment on that thing?

Say, I say in a conversation that I do something because of my OCD, but then magically someone talking to me shouldn't be allowed to refer back to my OCD? Like, unless I give explicit permission?

Is it just me or are the rules of conversation fucking weird as shit?

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[snake_socks]

I have literally no clue what your friend is talking about. Outside of, idk, "selectively reclaimed" slurs or whatever.

I. Don't think this is a thing? Or not a thing people who aren't passive aggressive assholes do? But I'm honestly baffled. Weird as shit indeed.

[yvannairie]

Oh yeah, I definitely assumed it was some kind of a Fucking Asshat Move someone had pulled on her, and when I expressed frank confusion about how "wait, I brought it up, why wouldn't it be okay for you to talk about it?" she was like "....huh".

[snake_socks]

yeah, I'd stay where you are on this - unless you're completely derailing the convo in favor of starting a cross examination on something private I tangentially alluded to, if it's out there it's out there. Now I'm really curious what the fuck happened to your friend. oO

[yvannairie]

Unfortunately I can't really talk of it to preserve her privacy, but safe to say there are some people in her past I'd have A Bunch Of Pointedly-Phrased Constructive Criticism towards, and also a deep all-abiding wish that they never fucking interact with her again.

[snake_socks]

sounds legit. best of luck to her!