a) find a group of people who it doesn't work for who are capable of expressing it without "hating" on it and b) somehow have the conversation somewhere where people who like it can't.... I don't want to say "pollute", but.... interfere? This is the hard bit! I've found that private ragging sessions with my friend can help me figure out my thoughts/the "what" of what doesn't work, and then later digestion will bring out the whys. In semi-public (multiple people, not on the open net) with other people who didn't like the thing, it was mostly a venting/ragging session, where we all agreed with each other's points and offered slightly different takes on it. In semi-public with people who did like the thing, I very reasonably elaborated what didn't work for me and why, but the responses all felt like they were missing the point – trying to explain away my issue with authorial intent with character motivation, or just saying that they liked it, because of $thing in their personal life. So, yeah. I think the best place to figure out why something doesn't work might be a DW post on one's journal (lowish traffic) with lots of noodling, and hoping the typing process or the comments will elucidate.
(And watch me use "doesn't work for me" vs even "dislike"! It really does go deep.)
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Date: 27/1/19 21:01 (UTC)This is the hard bit! I've found that private ragging sessions with my friend can help me figure out my thoughts/the "what" of what doesn't work, and then later digestion will bring out the whys. In semi-public (multiple people, not on the open net) with other people who didn't like the thing, it was mostly a venting/ragging session, where we all agreed with each other's points and offered slightly different takes on it. In semi-public with people who did like the thing, I very reasonably elaborated what didn't work for me and why, but the responses all felt like they were missing the point – trying to explain away my issue with authorial intent with character motivation, or just saying that they liked it, because of $thing in their personal life. So, yeah. I think the best place to figure out why something doesn't work might be a DW post on one's journal (lowish traffic) with lots of noodling, and hoping the typing process or the comments will elucidate.
(And watch me use "doesn't work for me" vs even "dislike"! It really does go deep.)