It's not a test.

People disliking something mundane in your feed is not a challenge to explain why that thing is fine, people can have totally irrational and unfounded dislike of things, they're not doing anything wrong unless they're actively attacking someone doing that entirely harmless thing.

People are allowed to have negative opinions. Negative opinions are good for you, to figure out your own boundaries.

(But it sucks watching someone be uncomfortable because they just don't understand, even sometimes repeatedly saying "I don't know why anyone would do this!!" and having that uncertainty make them unable to distinguish actual problems, just widely condemning a swath of perfectly cromulent activities because of a false understanding, being mislead, being primed to dislike something, or getting their confusion tangled up in something that's personally unpleasant for them.)

(But it's not my problem.)

(I'm not obligated to free people of their ignorance.)

(I am not a mentor figure.)

*yanks this point off my Tumblr to preserve it*

The problem with me writing meta is that my meta almost always starts with a cool headcanon that I feel like ties up some free-floating subtext, which I then take enough of a liking to to generalise it into a Rule.

I’m not super forthcoming about my actual headcanons out of any real. Disinterest in talking about them, but rather because a) it’s really hard for me to edit them down to less than a paragraph and b) it’s very hard for me to distinguish where I’m moving from Coming Up With Stuff to Analysing The Stuff That I Used As Inspiration. I find the rule better once I’ve tried applying it a few times to see if it works, but that process is long and annoying to follow if you come in expecting my opinions to be consistent.