Trauma is a complex thing and there aren't clear points where trauma becomes differentiated from generic discomfort or ambiguity or negative experiences or being wronged but not scarred. Plus the nature of being traumatized is that it can be hard to realize (both internally and externally) that somebody has trauma. But furthermore, brains code things strangely and it doesn't take trauma (in the typical sense of Events Which Are Deemed Scarring) or traumatic experiences (which can be scarring without being "objectively" awful) to create pathways or symptoms or associations associated with trauma. You don't need to be traumatized in any sense to feel a resonance with narratives of trauma.
Many people are pretty comfortable having a sort of inner circle of close companions and then keeping others within the outer sphere at varying levels of proximity, and if it suits you to only appear in the outer shells of other peoples' social spheres, then that seems like a perfectly functional solution which doesn't harm anybody (so long as you see no harm in it for yourself), since it's natural for others to have a place to slot others who aren't strictly intimate friends.
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Date: 23/4/19 05:08 (UTC)Many people are pretty comfortable having a sort of inner circle of close companions and then keeping others within the outer sphere at varying levels of proximity, and if it suits you to only appear in the outer shells of other peoples' social spheres, then that seems like a perfectly functional solution which doesn't harm anybody (so long as you see no harm in it for yourself), since it's natural for others to have a place to slot others who aren't strictly intimate friends.