I keep saying "rhetoric matters" but do I listen?

[yvannairie]

It really is something else to see someone you thought was eloquent, measured and thorough argue against a point you agree with and realise that you can't get behind anything they're saying because the tone, delivery and reasoning are so obtuse, and then realise you've agreed with them repeatedly on their reasoning on points you both disagree with.

Turns out I'm still very bad at listening to how a thing is said if I agree with the thing being said, which is incidentally why I was a baby radfem for years before growing an accountability organ spontaneously.