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yvannairie) wrote2019-06-22 03:59 pm
yvannairie) wrote2019-06-22 03:59 pm
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Emotional vulnerability is a thing, y'all
You know what's helped me?
Realising that people often argue with the people they're most comfortable with because feeling "safe" lets those emotions come out. Suppressing negative feelings around people you feel threatened by is very common, so the people who cause those negative feelings might never hear a peep about the distress they've caused. In a way, arguing with your friends is the safest thing you can do.
Being able to be honest with someone, confident that whatever the repercussions of your emotions are, you felt safe enough to let them out in the first place, should really be a demonstration that someone is doing something right.
(Mind, this might not work for everyone the same way -- some people argue with the people they feel are "weaker" than them instead. It all comes down to how you've learned to defend yourself.)
Realising that people often argue with the people they're most comfortable with because feeling "safe" lets those emotions come out. Suppressing negative feelings around people you feel threatened by is very common, so the people who cause those negative feelings might never hear a peep about the distress they've caused. In a way, arguing with your friends is the safest thing you can do.
Being able to be honest with someone, confident that whatever the repercussions of your emotions are, you felt safe enough to let them out in the first place, should really be a demonstration that someone is doing something right.
(Mind, this might not work for everyone the same way -- some people argue with the people they feel are "weaker" than them instead. It all comes down to how you've learned to defend yourself.)