Yeah, I feel like there's a huge intentionality thing that your brainweasels are trying to make you ignore?

Like, you can say 'There is a thought in my head that I should do X'. Saying that is not doing X, nor is it even necessarily stating an intent to do X. It might just be you expressing frustration that your brainweasels are trying to make you do X when you don't want to.

I also think that 'did this cause harm?' is a different axis than 'was this intended to cause harm?', but that's also its own can of worms sometimes.