Hahahha. Well! To be fair I think the idea that talking behind people's backs is bad is fairly universal even to highly non-rule-abiding cultures that are very bad at waiting patiently in line (Americans, latinx /Mediterranean cultures known for low personal space and talking over people). I mean that doesn't stop anybody from DOING it because it's probably a universal impulse (and I suppose logically it would be nearly impossible to get society working if it didn't exist at all), but there's public disapproval of it to various degrees that in practice plays out in different ways (eg some cultures think it's okay to talk behind people's backs as long as it's only in private; some internalize a strict do-as-I-say-not-as-I-do splitting where people are highly encouraged both to absolutely verbally deny that it's ever ok to talk shit about people AND to talk shit about people but to be careful to limit the amount so they don't get caught...)
...but of course the more concerned you are with abstract justice, personal ethics inside your own head and making yourself as fair as possible, and the value of rules and social norms... the more you are going to take that to heart. I mean there are definitely plenty of Finnish people who cheerfully talk shit behind everybody else's backs, though perhaps a smaller %... the difference is more in how everybody else around them generally reacts to it. (More disapproving, but of course because of fairness kink, it's weighted towards silent disapproval. Coming out too strongly against it, even when they think it's morally wrong and unfair, maybe seems risky?)
++ Kinda OT but constant complaining about how things weren't fair for her somehow: this is standard for self-centered people (and hence it's one of the most recognizable qualities of severe narcissists like Trump). I mean, we can all relate to it probably, it's just the more self-centered someone is, the more skewed their concept of 'fair' because they genuinely fail to perceive the context. In fact, there was a severely alarming coworker at my last job who was obsessed with things not being 'fair' to her and had a complete tantrum in the middle of the warehouse and physically tried to manhandle me away from the communal radio to prevent me from turning the volume down after she had turned it up to 100%. (LOL.)
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...but of course the more concerned you are with abstract justice, personal ethics inside your own head and making yourself as fair as possible, and the value of rules and social norms... the more you are going to take that to heart. I mean there are definitely plenty of Finnish people who cheerfully talk shit behind everybody else's backs, though perhaps a smaller %... the difference is more in how everybody else around them generally reacts to it. (More disapproving, but of course because of fairness kink, it's weighted towards silent disapproval. Coming out too strongly against it, even when they think it's morally wrong and unfair, maybe seems risky?)
++ Kinda OT but constant complaining about how things weren't fair for her somehow: this is standard for self-centered people (and hence it's one of the most recognizable qualities of severe narcissists like Trump). I mean, we can all relate to it probably, it's just the more self-centered someone is, the more skewed their concept of 'fair' because they genuinely fail to perceive the context. In fact, there was a severely alarming coworker at my last job who was obsessed with things not being 'fair' to her and had a complete tantrum in the middle of the warehouse and physically tried to manhandle me away from the communal radio to prevent me from turning the volume down after she had turned it up to 100%. (LOL.)