a slight improvement

[yvannairie]

Breeding kink looks to finally be going out of fashion, but unfortunately it looks like it's being replaced by petplay.

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[yvannairie]

Yeah. And I feel like I'm being made fun of when people suddenly start posting shit about what they think petplay is like and make a meme out of it. I've felt this way about other kinks I was into and even kinks I wasn't into but my friends were into becoming the memestock of the internet for whatever brief window they occupied the collective brainspace.

Like I am glad to see the breeding stuff go, I've been extremely exhausted by nobody tagging it and bringing it up randomly like it's a neutral thing, but I'm not gonna enjoy them bringing up petplay like it's a neutral thing because even then I know it's a trap. Most people talking about kink are just performing socially, and if you're "too" into (ie. at all genuinely into) whatever the meme du jour is, you become a meme right alongside it.

At worst it becomes the same way foot fetish is ie. literally the only time it's brought up even on supposedly "progressive", "sex positive" servers, it's as a punchline. I've stopped interacting with so many people over their inability to see beyond the tip of their nose, and what with how intensely puritanical the internet is atm anyway, I'm not gonna enjoy the puritans going down the list of yet another kink that is allowed to exist as long as it's always, always the punchline.

[grayestofghosts]

You've actually managed to put into words something that has been bothering me... huh.

Like it's a fake shield of vulnerability, and when you're actually vulnerable, that's when they get you, all over again.

[yvannairie]

It's exactly that, and I've seen enough people who are loudly "against perverts and freaks" do it that I also know these people will treat any actual dom who approaches them like shit if they aren't just doing it for the meme.

It's very tiring, like, I'm just tired of being kinky and that being a punchline. People do not think about the words that leave their mouth, they're shuttered to imagining the world is just like they are and anyone who isn't is a freak pervert a dangerous predator.