I don't know you in real life, and I don't know you at the age you are discussing, but I think you are being very hard on yourself.
Whether the victims of bullying have a "type" I do not know, because my experience is quite limited. I was bullied by mean girls in the fifth grade--only verbally. My son was bullied by mean boys in the second grade and it extended to physical assault.
I clearly remember some horrific bullying of developmentally disabled children in my elementary school -- a totally different category.
My son and I were totally different personality types at those ages, so I have very little data here.
But victims of bullies never bring it on themselves. Never. I don't care how annoying and "bad vibe-y" they are. Bullying is a choice made by the bullies. How hard would it be to just ignore or leave alone the kids you don't like? Not hard at all.
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Whether the victims of bullying have a "type" I do not know, because my experience is quite limited. I was bullied by mean girls in the fifth grade--only verbally. My son was bullied by mean boys in the second grade and it extended to physical assault.
I clearly remember some horrific bullying of developmentally disabled children in my elementary school -- a totally different category.
My son and I were totally different personality types at those ages, so I have very little data here.
But victims of bullies never bring it on themselves. Never. I don't care how annoying and "bad vibe-y" they are. Bullying is a choice made by the bullies. How hard would it be to just ignore or leave alone the kids you don't like? Not hard at all.