I am once again wondering about what it's like to be NT

[yvannairie]

It just occurred to me that I'm not Okay with the whole "queer culture/gay-to-gay friendship necessarily contains oversharing as a component of it"

I'm no longer okay with the idea of other queer people or people who share my queer trauma being somehow more reliable and trustworthy with the intimate details of my life.

If I'm oversharing, that is a problem! That is a symptom! I am explicitly doing it against my will as a trauma response to having my feelings invalidated if I don't go into excruciating details on their origins! And I'm starting to wonder if the word "overshare" means something else to most people, because I've also seen people use "overshare" to mean "discuss their emotions and experiences to any degree".

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[yvannairie]

This is a really insightful answer, although for additional context I gotta add that what got me thinking about this was looking at how most of my queer friends I've found through fandom, and most of my fandom friends are queer, and how fandom, right now, definitely isn't more "accepting" right now what with the New Satanic Panic going on, and how I just suddenly got this horrible sense of all these young people learning bad boundaries b/c the scenes they hang out in tell them that's "normal", and then going on to exercise those bad boundaries in other scenes.