I am once again wondering about what it's like to be NT

[yvannairie]

It just occurred to me that I'm not Okay with the whole "queer culture/gay-to-gay friendship necessarily contains oversharing as a component of it"

I'm no longer okay with the idea of other queer people or people who share my queer trauma being somehow more reliable and trustworthy with the intimate details of my life.

If I'm oversharing, that is a problem! That is a symptom! I am explicitly doing it against my will as a trauma response to having my feelings invalidated if I don't go into excruciating details on their origins! And I'm starting to wonder if the word "overshare" means something else to most people, because I've also seen people use "overshare" to mean "discuss their emotions and experiences to any degree".

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[stardust_rifle]

1: "I'm no longer okay with the idea of other queer people or people who share my queer trauma being somehow more reliable and trustworthy with the intimate details of my life."

OH GOD YES THIS.

2: On the "does oversharing mean something else to most people" thing, I genuinely (as someone who has this problem) think that a lot of people are overcorrecting in this regard. Either they had a problem in the past with oversharing or they were told that they were oversharing in response to talking about themselves, so they've taken the response of just not talking about their own emotions/experiences at all.